How to ask and convince mom?
Feb/101
Hi,
Although I am a 27 years old boy (should say ‘man’), the culture I have been brought up in still ties me emotionally to my parents, especially my mother, who has done a lot for me.
I have always asked her everything I did and there’s no secret that I don’t share with her, every little thing she is aware of. She has given me enough freedom in teens, yet the culture and values she taught me never took me to any wrong path ever.
Now, coming to the problem 
I like to keep myself clean and have my cleavage clean shaved. Tried with a razor, but ended up getting rough surface and don’t want to damage my chest. So, I want to use a hair removal cream. I used Veet once and found that it helps keep the skin smooth.
Now, I am hesitant to go and tell her that I am (or want to use a HRC [Hair Removal Cream]), because of some problems I discuss below. Now, the reason I want to "tell" this to her is that if she suddenly finds the cream in my cupboard one fine day, she will cultivate wrong things about me in her mind. She is understanding, but today itself she said to me that boys should not use a Lip Guard (the usual winter care lip guard), because boys are supposed to be rough and tough, only girls should use a Lip Guard, which I did not agree and quarelled about, because firstly I had seen an advertise in which it was clearly shown that for the chapped lips of a MAN, the lip guard was advertised. Secondly, I believe that winter does not discriminate between a man and a woman and if lips of a man are chapped, there is no issue in using a product that is meant for chapped lips. She is okay if I use petroleum gelly, and even I have no issues using it, but basically, I want to eradicate the belief system she carries about me – that I am enticed towards female products. (By the grace of God, they invented Fair & Lovely for MEN, so I use it openly)
Now, I can definitely wait for her to "find" the HRC in my cupboard one fine day, but then, what reason do I tell her?
I don’t want to fight with her or tell her that she should not interfere in my private body things, because I know she only cares for me, but then I also feel that she should really give me freedom in such things and should not assume or cultivate wrong beliefs about me in her mind. I am not doing this for any wrong reason and the reason I want to let her know this frankly is because I will be completely free and comfortable in using it and will not have to hide it and do something secretly. If I tell her, she may not agree and start assuming me wrong. You know typical moms right?
Now, my question is that am I right in firstly having this belief that a clean chest is good? Or is it really not required? If yes, how should I go and tell her, with what reason? If not, do you think I should simply stop doing this? Another best way out would be going for a laser hair removal treatment for around Rs. 5K and just be out of the hassle or maintaining and hiding the HRC. But again, am I carrying the right beliefs? Or do you think hair on a man’s body simply do not matter for any reason whatsoever? Totally confused.
How to ask and convince mom?
Feb/105
Hi,
Although I am a 27 years old boy (should say ‘man’), the culture I have been brought up in still ties me emotionally to my parents, especially my mother, who has done a lot for me.
I have always asked her everything I did and there’s no secret that I don’t share with her, every little thing she is aware of. She has given me enough freedom in teens, yet the culture and values she taught me never took me to any wrong path ever.
Now, coming to the problem
I like to keep myself clean and have my cleavage clean shaved. Tried with a razor, but ended up getting rough surface and don’t want to damage my chest. So, I want to use a hair removal cream. I used Veet once and found that it helps keep the skin smooth.
Now, I am hesitant to go and tell her that I am (or want to use a HRC [Hair Removal Cream]), because of some problems I discuss below. Now, the reason I want to "tell" this to her is that if she suddenly finds the cream in my cupboard one fine day, she will cultivate wrong things about me in her mind. She is understanding, but today itself she said to me that boys should not use a Lip Guard (the usual winter care lip guard), because boys are supposed to be rough and tough, only girls should use a Lip Guard, which I did not agree and quarelled about, because firstly I had seen an advertise in which it was clearly shown that for the chapped lips of a MAN, the lip guard was advertised. Secondly, I believe that winter does not discriminate between a man and a woman and if lips of a man are chapped, there is no issue in using a product that is meant for chapped lips. She is okay if I use petroleum gelly, and even I have no issues using it, but basically, I want to eradicate the belief system she carries about me – that I am enticed towards female products. (By the grace of God, they invented Fair & Lovely for MEN, so I use it openly)
Now, I can definitely wait for her to "find" the HRC in my cupboard one fine day, but then, what reason do I tell her?
I don’t want to fight with her or tell her that she should not interfere in my private body things, because I know she only cares for me, but then I also feel that she should really give me freedom in such things and should not assume or cultivate wrong beliefs about me in her mind. I am not doing this for any wrong reason and the reason I want to let her know this frankly is because I will be completely free and comfortable in using it and will not have to hide it and do something secretly. If I tell her, she may not agree and start assuming me wrong. You know typical moms right?
Now, my question is that am I right in firstly having this belief that a clean chest is good? Or is it really not required? If yes, how should I go and tell her, with what reason? If not, do you think I should simply stop doing this? Another best way out would be going for a laser hair removal treatment for around Rs. 5K and just be out of the hassle or maintaining and hiding the HRC. But again, am I carrying the right beliefs? Or do you think hair on a man’s body simply do not matter for any reason whatsoever? Totally confused.
