Am I being contacted by something?
Feb/103
I’m going to make this as short as possible. If you want to know more, simply ask and I’ll put it in the details section.
Last year (I was 13) I had my first dream about a man by the name of Fero Audon. His skin color is like a milk-white, he has very very very light blue eyes, bald, and has thin dark purple lips. He’s also very skinny. Anyway, in the first dream after I met him, I went home and got on the internet and this website pops up that says "M(something)esen" It was blurry, so I took it as Mennessen and clicked on it. The site opened up to a video of a woman tying a rope around his neck and yanking on it, but for some reason I thought he was having an affair with her since under the video it read we were married for 2 years and had 4 children together.
In the following dream he was dying and told me not to be afraid and to accept it. But that was really the last encounter I had with him until now.
The other day I had a dream he was very angry with me, baring teeth and growling but with no noise. It was pretty scary looking. I told him I loved him and he bucked at me. He was wearing a black and white jumper and had a black triangle on his chest. I asked him to lift up his arm and he showed me some numbers on the inside of his left forarm. I looked up concentration camps and started to cry because I had no idea they put them on the left arm, or that they had to shave their heads and wear a symbol for whatever they were there for (black triangle; asocial, which would explain why he never talked and shyed away from me) and with the Mennesson thing, it turns out that there was a concentration camp called Mauthausen. So I’m really freaked out. I’ve been posting questions about this since yesterday.
Please help; do you think he’s trying to tell me something? And should I help or leave it alone?
Thank you so much in advance for answering.
How to ask and convince mom?
Feb/105
Hi,
Although I am a 27 years old boy (should say ‘man’), the culture I have been brought up in still ties me emotionally to my parents, especially my mother, who has done a lot for me.
I have always asked her everything I did and there’s no secret that I don’t share with her, every little thing she is aware of. She has given me enough freedom in teens, yet the culture and values she taught me never took me to any wrong path ever.
Now, coming to the problem 
I like to keep myself clean and have my cleavage clean shaved. Tried with a razor, but ended up getting rough surface and don’t want to damage my chest. So, I want to use a hair removal cream. I used Veet once and found that it helps keep the skin smooth.
Now, I am hesitant to go and tell her that I am (or want to use a HRC [Hair Removal Cream]), because of some problems I discuss below. Now, the reason I want to "tell" this to her is that if she suddenly finds the cream in my cupboard one fine day, she will cultivate wrong things about me in her mind. She is understanding, but today itself she said to me that boys should not use a Lip Guard (the usual winter care lip guard), because boys are supposed to be rough and tough, only girls should use a Lip Guard, which I did not agree and quarelled about, because firstly I had seen an advertise in which it was clearly shown that for the chapped lips of a MAN, the lip guard was advertised. Secondly, I believe that winter does not discriminate between a man and a woman and if lips of a man are chapped, there is no issue in using a product that is meant for chapped lips. She is okay if I use petroleum gelly, and even I have no issues using it, but basically, I want to eradicate the belief system she carries about me – that I am enticed towards female products. (By the grace of God, they invented Fair & Lovely for MEN, so I use it openly)
Now, I can definitely wait for her to "find" the HRC in my cupboard one fine day, but then, what reason do I tell her?
I don’t want to fight with her or tell her that she should not interfere in my private body things, because I know she only cares for me, but then I also feel that she should really give me freedom in such things and should not assume or cultivate wrong beliefs about me in her mind. I am not doing this for any wrong reason and the reason I want to let her know this frankly is because I will be completely free and comfortable in using it and will not have to hide it and do something secretly. If I tell her, she may not agree and start assuming me wrong. You know typical moms right?
Now, my question is that am I right in firstly having this belief that a clean chest is good? Or is it really not required? If yes, how should I go and tell her, with what reason? If not, do you think I should simply stop doing this? Another best way out would be going for a laser hair removal treatment for around Rs. 5K and just be out of the hassle or maintaining and hiding the HRC. But again, am I carrying the right beliefs? Or do you think hair on a man’s body simply do not matter for any reason whatsoever? Totally confused.
Am I wrong for wanting my girlfriend to spruce up her appearance more?
Feb/1010
We first met in college. I was madly in love with her. She was stunning to me. She had style. I admit she was a bit of a tomboy and I was a crazy bad boy myself. We never dated during that time.
We recently reunited and started dating for the first time ever. We’re both 8 years older now. I’m a professional man who dresses more mature. My mentality is more refined also. On the other hand, she doesn’t dress up often. Mostly casual (sweat pants, t-shirt, jeans, etc.). Also she doesn’t put much effort into her hair. She’ll just pull it back where every we go! She has a bit of acne she didn’t have in college. She also has slight lip hair I never noticed before. And yes, I have made subtle recommendations, nothing mean. And lastly, if I say let’s go out together after work, she always says, "well, I’m not going home to change, I’ll wear what I have on". She works a retail manager where she always on her feet. I would like her to freshen up, re-groom her hair. Look fresh to go out. Just like I would shave and shower before a date with a woman. I like looking nice as a man. Those days are over with the baggy pants and uncombed hair. AM I BEING SUPERFICIAL AS A MAN. Or should I accept her as is. At the end of the day, I just want a woman who knows how to look her best (…maybe sexy), not just " I think I look fine the way I am" line. Could money be an issue? Help me people (especially the ladies!)
My inner labia is wayyyy smaller than my outer and wonder if this is why no one ever went down on me?
Feb/105
This is such an embarrassing topic, but I really need to discuss because I’ve developed a complex!!! I want to hear from other women and men (or women?) who’ve been down on lots of women lol
I am 20, had 3 boyfriends and 2 guys I made out with and I’ve become SOOO self conscience down there and I get more as none of my boyfriends ever went down on me.
Now I know there are many men that are repulsed at the idea of going down on a woman because they fear it might smell or taste bad BUT IT DOESN’T! I’m super clean ~ I even shower or wash and shave down there before a date. Never had an STD or infection. I got brazilians. I wear sexy underwear. I’ve looked for flaws in the mirror and I just can’t find anything except my weird size. Never have any of my boyfriends gone down there!!!!
I have really small inner labia and small clitoris, but my outer lips are thick. Nothing sticks out at all. It’s like all hidden with my outer lips. Why is this such a bad thing though?? I never thought my vagina was weird, I used to feel really confident but as no one ever goes down on me I have been getting more and more self conscience and wondering what about me is such a turn off? I’ve searched to see if I was weirdly colored or symmetrical, but I’m pink and even which is good right? I’ve started comparing myself to women in like porn and mine is nothing like their labias they have the protruding inner lips and practically non existent outter lips – so if this is what men find sexy they must be weirded out by the site of mine??
I don’t know how to be sexier or more attractive down there. It gets absolutely NO attention and I’m thinking I would have to get labiaplasty or something. I spend so much time and effort like I was even getting brazilian waxes for my last boyfriend of 1 year and thats because he said he likes to play with a smooth and hairless P* but he never played with mine and now I’m thinking I should probably never take my underwear off because what is the point??
I know supposedly women with longer labias are feeling abnormals but they are more common and if you look at porn all the women have long labias!!! If it’s in porn that means it is what men come to expect!!
For men: Is it a burden if a girl’s labia isn’t sticking past her outer lips? Are you surprised or turned off? Does it gross you out to have to spread her lips to seen the inner and clit?? Does this stop you from going down on a woman also?
Women: does any other women have small/barely existent labia? Do you feel self conscience? Or do you think it is a good thing? Do guys react to it any way?
Upper lip hair removal question?
Feb/109
I know shaving is not the best way for a woman to remove her upper hair lip, but currently, I don’t have another choice.
So what can I do to make the shave closer and last longer, and make the hair less coarse? I’m not sure if I wanna put the shaving cream I use for my legs so close to my lips, isn’t that bad? And I’ve also heard of the trick of using conditioner on your legs to shave them, should I use that for my upper lip?
Any other suggestions? Please help!!!
And please cite personal experience, I’d like to know how it works for you.
Thanks!
POLL:For Guys only! Do you care about hair?
Feb/101
Hair on the body, I mean. Do you think a woman should shave her whole body? Because all people have hair, everywhere on their bodies except for the palms of their hands, bottom of their feet, and lips. Just, on most of the body, we have vellus hairs, which are small, lightly colored, and barely noticeable. There are also terminal hair, which grow at the onset of puberty. They’re thick and noticeable.
So do you think a woman should get rid of all body hair, including vellus hairs? Do you think a woman should shave/wax her whole body, or just legs, armpits, and nether regions?
